Some Questions About Meditation and How I Mentor

Q; I have sat numerous times and attempted to meditate, but I honestly don’t even know what I’m supposed to do. Can you help me with that?

A; Yes. One of the reasons I prefer guided or spoken word meditations, is that there is something to focus on. By listening to the sounds, be they nature, music, weather, spoken word, your attention has a place to go. It’s an excellent way to train your mind to go where you wish it to, instead of feeling that it’s out of your control. It really is not.

Meditation, for me, is essentially a conduit to the more vast source within us. It’s a way to open up a pathway to what you truly have always known, but lost touch with. Isn’t that often the way a Great Truth is? You recognize something in it as if you’d always known it.

When we quiet our mind and stay with it, again and again coming back to the present moment, there is a flow of light and energy and information which has room to flow because we’ve taken the time to listen. We have slowed our rampant, racing thoughts and now we become aware of what else is going on in there. It’s a beautiful world that exists and by simply breathing, staying in the present and sticking with it, the Universe begins to flow through us in ways we did not know it could. So, do nothing at first. Just sit, breathe, listen. That’s it. And definitely use headphones because they will help you to become more fully immersed in the meditation.
Q; In your Meditation Mentoring, is there a specific program or pace that you begin with? Is it something you can describe?

A; Hi, I’m sure there are some aspects that will overlap from person to person. But I can tell you that I’ve been working with a few dozen people in the last year or two, some on the phone, some by email, a few in person. I listen to each of them and we go from there. Meditation is about your life and where it flows from. So facets of your life come into the discussion sometimes, very naturally. You may have some specific reasons you would like to meditate or situations you would like to meditate on. I may ask you questions just to have an understanding of how I can best help you. And then I share some of my own experiences, stories of events that have unfolded as I meditate, and awareness that has expanded. It’s different with each person, and it’s my intention and dedication to find the best ways to help you WANT to meditate. I think that may be one of the things I do best.

When we’re ending each phone call, I’ll suggest something in regards to how you proceed. I’ll email you a meditation to begin with unless you have something else you prefer. And we will take from there as it naturally flows. There is not always a lot to report after each meditation, so don’t feel you must have something to report. But I find that as I start to explore it with you, there are sometimes things going on that you may not yet have considered until I mention them. It’s a process, sometimes a silent and slow one, sometimes it moves more rapidly. There can be helpful experiences insights to share along the way. If you think of something a few days later and want to email me about it, I’ll give it my full attention and try to help you there too.

Q; I get very restless and frustrated when I try to meditate. It can end up upsetting me and creating more stress than I had in the first place because I feel like I’ve failed. Does this happen for others?

A; That would be a great big yessiree bob! I recently read a quote from a teacher/author of meditation who said he has to meditate for two hours a day because the first hour is filled with scattered thinking about what he has to do tomorrow. It is not a failure to be scattered during a meditation. It is a part of the process that gets much better over time — yet still comes to us on occasion. I ask the folks at my Meditation Gatherings, “What do you call a meditation where your mind is buzzing and you can’t stop rampant thoughts from taking over?” A; You call that meditation. It is still meditation. And what I have come to feel in my own practice is that the effort, the simple gesture to sit and begin meditating, and then to follow through to the best of my ability, is enough that day. I have had extremely scattered meditation experiences, where I wondered if I had listened to a single word the speaker had to share. Then my sleep that night and experiences the next day might feel extraordinarily blessed, to the degree that I would realize that it came because of that lousy meditation!
Q; I am afraid to meditate. I don’t know for sure why, but I fear what may come up that I don’t want to think about.

A; I never knew until this last year how many people come from this same place. I just hadn’t ever thought of it. Of course, I suggest going gently into meditation at your safe pace. And I can help you with that. Whether it’s two minutes, five, ten. Whatever you need. But also, remember that you are meditating to NOT have thoughts, not to have more of them. The practice starts to show you results. One day you’ll be meditating and distinctly recognize that something has shifted inside your mind and it is easier to slide into the deeper state of consciousness which starts to prompt your expansion. That moment is not some miracle. It’s simply what happens when you stay with it. Not unlike doing five then seven then nine pushups until you can finally do ten.
Q; It’s hard for me to sit with my back straight. And I can’t always breathe the way I’ve heard meditation teachers suggest. I just feel like if I don’t get the fundamentals, I will not be able to meditate properly.

A; I don’t know if your name is Nelly, but Whoa! That is absolutely a whole sack of untruths. There is no position you cannot meditate in. And ALL breath is sacred, all breath is a miracle. So you do not have to follow one particular style. Yes, there are ways to breathe that may help you, absolutely. But if you breathe at all, you can meditate. I can help you with that and I encourage you not to let one more “rule” stand in your way.
Q; I meditated for many years and believed I would never stop. But somehow, I did. I feel guilty about it and am a little embarrassed that I ever stopped. I want to go back, but I feel like I have a kind of block that keeps me from it.

A; Do you know what a block is? It’s a thought. So let’s change that thought, okay? There is nothing to feel badly about because life took you in a new direction. You lived and learned and now you bring those experiences into a place where they can become wisdom. That’s what happens when we can let go of judging ourselves. All our experiences, every single one of them, will become wisdom as soon as we can begin to come into the present moment regularly and live there. That is what meditation will show you how to do.

So just begin again, perhaps in small steps. Maybe a ten minute meditation that you do most days. I say “most” because I don’t want you to feel that you fail if you miss a day or two now and then. Just begin to make it a part of your life. If you were ill and knew that a somewhat bitter tasting medicine would make you well, would get rid of your horribly sore throat, I know you are mature enough to choose the bitter taste in order to gain the healing outcome. Same with meditation, it’s a healing, uplifting, inspiring practice which can begin to bring your whole life into balance. So if ten minutes is a little bit inconvenient, I know you are mature enough to overcome that and start to practice again. After a short time I predict that you will recognize the gifts of inner well being to the extent that it will be as if you’d never stopped.


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